Bonding day

Today attend my cousin's wedding. A good occasion to bond and my girl can play with her cousins. 

She chose a very long tail princess dress to attend the wedding with her princess shoes.

And she ask me. Mummy whose wedding is it? I say is yiyi's wedding. She ask me why is it yiyi's wedding not mine? I ask her back. U got hub meh? Where's your hub? 😆 

She ask if she can have a wedding? I told her when u grow up find someone you love and to start a family then u can have a wedding too. She ask me if wedding is a big party? I say yes. It is. 

Told her we going take car to the wedding. She ask me is it wedding car? 🤣🤣🤣

I told her wedding car not for u de. For yiyi cause is yiyi's wedding. She say she wanted to see the wedding car. See what color. 

Given her character maybe she will find a bf pretty early too. 

She say she like winning dont like losing. Win can get trophy. Hahaha. One day she will know trophy isnt the only thing you get when you win. Also when you lose u can get thing too. 

Today taught her something. She drop her toy into the drain. Then she was unhappy wanted me to help her take. I say drain cover very heavy. She ask me try. I knew as she is stubborn she wont listen no matter what. So i told her ok let's try. Tried to open the drain cover. 

Though I manage to pick up her toy. I ended up injure myself with the cover. She felt a bit guilty told me i wanted to help u but u dont let me help. I said I told u the drain cover is heavy. If you make it, now injured one will be you and it may be worse. Then she kept quiet told me let's go home wash and help u put plaster. I say ok.

I told her I cant carry the bag anymore cause my finger injured. Can you carry? She did it willingly and keep telling me dont worry im strong i can carry even if one finger and demo to me. 

At home I ask her what do you do next time if you drop ur toy? She said buy a new one. Now she realize nth is more important than risking yourself and being injured.

After that I told her. As mummy is injured because of you, u have to help me fold clothes. She was relunctant at first but still did it. She told me Im just a kid. Fold clothes when you grow up also need to do. And so she did it. 

Independence is the best guidance you can give to your kids. Building her strong at heart. 

Evening go home in the car the driver did an e brake. Luckily she was wearing seatbelt. I took the chance to emphasise importance if seatbelt. She say aunty will hug me. I say she dont do it every time. She told me said daddy say dont need. I say you want to fall off and injured? 

Next time need to guide her doesnt matter what others say to u. If u feel us important then u should do what u need to do. Even if the person scold u or criticise u for it. End of the day life is yours not others and they cant live it for u if u will injured, in pain etc.

Time budgeting

Mother's day my daughter give me a bouquet of flowers make of paper. And a sunflower make of clay. Told me happy Mother's day. I love you mummy. 😍 

Had a good mother daughter bonding day. I ask her. U want to be like daddy or like uncle? She thought for a while and say I want to be like mummy. So sweet. 

Mummy will be the best role model for you. ❤️

Being a mother is good provided having money to have someone taking care full time on minor things, housework, cooking etc while you rest to have more time and energy for bonding activities. 

It is not easy needing to work for money, build social relationship plus finding time and energy to bond with your kids. Especially when time is limited. Nevertheless there is no such thing as no time or energy to spend with your kids and family. Learning to manage time and manage mindset is important so that you spend enough time to build memories and at the same time dont burnout. 

Having kids is giving love and love to me is willingness to spend time together. 

Money is unlimited. As long as you work you can have money. But time is limited for everyone. Choose to spend your time wisely on your own wellbeing as well as ppl that you love. 

We always talk about budgeting money. How about budgeting time? How much time are you willing to spend going out with your parents or visiting them? How about friends, relatives, grandparents etc etc? There are too many ppl that need your time. 

1/3 of our time of our lives are spend sleeping and resting. Another 1/3 are spend working. You only left with the remaining 1/3 to spend with your love ones before you leave this world. Are you going to spend that remaining 1/3 addicted to gambling, games or drugs or are you going to make full use of them to do things meaningful. 

Every year when you build your goals, instead of always making financial goals, set goals for time management. How much time to spend travelling, how much time to spend on self care and health, how much time to spend for family and friends, how much time on hobbies etc etc?

End of your life what's important is how much time are you happy during this lifetime and what you learn?

Lastly happy parents' day because usually I dont rmb when father's day is. 😆

Vexed

Feeling vexed recently. Mostly because of work. Just need to cool myself down against pressure. Especially remarks from above management. Is time to put a stop and ignore if possible. Sometimes I ask myself why do I need to care. Everything talk with result. If I can handle then why bother. Need is both ways anyway. I need the job and money that why im there. They need me that why Im still there. 😆 

Also because of the busy schedule and recent drama I totally neglected about my court case tomorrow which is a good thing. Make me just cant be bothered with the case result tomorrow. Money and happiness is more important now. As long as some idiot dont come and waste my time. Furthermore, hopefully he knows to stay in line and dont bother me after this. But i know also that stupid ppl likes to challenge until they regret when they get the karma. No matter how long it takes as long as it interfere with my happiness, i will just keep the case going. 

Sometimes growing up being too independent has it's flaws. Because you knew you cant depend on anyone other than yourself. And this cognition cost more pressure than any other thing. I hate having debts. And debts seems to be inevitable staying in sg. Either drop the lifestyle or fall into debt. This tough decision keeps repeating in life. Ppl thinks that you are sacrificing time for money. But in actual u are sacrificing freedom and lifestyle for money. And then again u need money for freedom and lifestyle. So contradicting. 

Without money u cant decide to leave or stay, because u need to stay for the money. Without money u cannot decide the lifestyle that u want. But u need to sacrifice certain lifestyle for money. Thinking too way ahead has it's flaw which is why they say dont focus too much on big win. Focus on small win and eventually u will get the big win. 

Small win are reducing stress, staying happy, sleeping well, eating well and being healthy. For now I dont want get myself too stress over relationships. Worrying too much about how to manage relationships make me even more stress to do any other important goals. So I need to stop worrying about any sort of relationships. Be it work, partner or parents. 

Every relationship must have trust and the thing about trust is, it is the hardest to maintain based on my experience. Why do I say maintain instead of give? If a person dont trust u, u dont even have an opportunity to be talking or be even beside that person. To work together, to be friends, to love etc all requires trust first. Why do u select this person? Because u trust and see their capability. However ppl dont feel that way. 

Ppl dont appreciate when u trust them and when they neglected or misuse it, u make the decision to take the trust back. After u take it back then they start complaining how u dont trust them. Sometimes when u feel a person dont trust u, ask yourself what did u do to lose that person's trust. Dont ask the person why you dont trust me. Because every relationship started with trust. U have their trust once but what did u do with that trust to eventually lose it?