to couples..

tis is for couples.. found tis on a website..
Some people believe that it is caring to point out their partner's flaws - that it will help to make that person a better person. But the intent behind pointing out flaws is not loving - it is controlling.
By pointing out flaws, you hope that your partner will let go of the things that you don't like and become more the person you want him or her to be. Now, be honest with yourself - is it working?Your partner might have one of two major responses to your judgments.

He or she might try very hard to become what you want them to be, thereby losing themselves. You might find that the more your partner tries to comply with your wishes, the less attractive he or she becomes to you. People who give themselves up are generally seen as doormats - not as personally powerful and attractive people. So, while your partner might try to change to be what you think you want him or her to be, you might find yourself losing interest.

Your partner might be a person who hates being controlled - hates being told what to do and how to be. When this is the case, he or she might shut down to you, resisting being controlled by you.
for more go to : http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/is_your_partner_always_pointing_out_your_flaws

for couples ask urself tis question:
*Have you two turned into best friends?
* Are you comfortable together, not having to put on a front with each other?
* Have you created a cozy intimacy and understanding that no one else is allowed to enter?
* Does he prefer to just hang around with you at home, more and more?
* Does he treat you with respect and confide in you some of his secrets and fears?
* Does he trust you with some of his most tender and sensitive thoughts?
* Does he ask you for advice?
* Do you laugh together?
* Does he show you affection and thoughtfulness IN HIS OWN WAY? (Not your way)?
If you can honestly say yes to most of these probing questions, then this is probably TRUE LOVE. And yes, he really loves you.