The act

Some people can be actors. I don't know what is the purpose of this. But acting to be nice in front of my family and relatives does not make me change my mind when your actions to me obviously shows otherwise. 

If you really wish to be nice then be nice in front of me. Not telling others and acting as though you care about me. Such actions only make me feel fake. If is reputation you are worried about, don't be. Because people can see your sincere actions rather than words. If you are really sincere and really care, people can see it without you saying or acting to care.

Time shows reality