爱都在细节里

常常都有人说爱是藏在细节里的。这句话是真的。因为爱你的人会关心你，在乎你，观察你。每一秒都在看着你。看你爱吃什么，爱做什么，而在这些事情上尽量配合你。他会记得你的喜好记得你不开心的点和会生气的点。然后尽力不去犯而让你不开心或生气。舍不得看的你不开心或生气。而希望你每天都开开心心的。

他会在你生气或伤心的时候主动道歉哄你开心。带着歉意和真诚。跟着你的喜好走。等哄开心后想好过对策再去解释自己和解决方案让误会解开。久而久之自然的两个人就会越来越了解彼此。也越来越少的争吵。

感情是长期的。争吵只是一时的。要互相沟通理解，解决问题才能走的长久。当然也包含了彼此尊重对方的习惯，爱好，界限等等。尊重接受对方的生活方式，是各付各的责任不逃避不推卸。双方一起努力撑起一个家。而包容不是要你彼此忍让压抑情绪而是调整自己在对他的认知后给于的宽容。就是为了他而敞开一些对感情里不重要的观点。其实不是各退一步而是各走一步。在你的习惯和他的习惯里调整出两人都能舒适的生活方式。

真心爱的人是一点一点的往彼此走，一点一点去了解彼此。然后一点一点的付出守护珍惜两人之间的感情。

强求

 我不会强求任何人把我放在重要的位置上。可是当我一旦意识到我在你那没这么重要的时候，我也会把你的重要性降级。人与人就是这样我不能要求你，但我可以改变自己，我只在乎在乎我的人。

一个人放弃一段感情之前一定在寒风中站了很久。失望是一天天累积的，离开都是很长的决定。直到再也不能分享你的生活，再也不想关心他的喜怒哀乐，就是该说再见的时候。不是真的不爱了，只是关于他的一切，再也没有了任何期待。后来你终于不再逢人就掏出自己的心，开始计较起付出和回报是不是成正比。在意的人值不值得，几分真情换几分真心。好消息是你懂得爱自己。坏消息是你已经很难再去爱上一个人。

Lies

Honestly I dont know what to say to myself.

When you realize that everything that make you feel touched in the past just became a lie.

The moment the truth is out, your heart freeze for a moment. Before your brain can capture clearly what has been said. 

When people lie in your face just so easily. Is being honest something that cant be done anymore? Is being sincere in a relationship not what makes it long term? 

Im so disappointed. But Im not making rash decision. So taking time to register, thinking it through before making any decision. 

Because the decision Im going to be make will be final. And is moving forward never going backwards. Before I come to that, I have to understand what I wanted first. Whether is it something I feel important. 

I have this strong feeling that betrayal is coming. And I hope this feeling will not become truth. In any way, I just need to stay open minded. And be positive with my future. With whatever hits turn it to positivity and move on. 

Remember what are the goals you set for yourself is. 

Fulfil your duties

Earn for Happiness

The rest just let nature take it's course. Whether love remains or not leave it up to fate. Because one day the truth will surface. If it hasnt surface means the timing is not yet. If I cant prevent, I'll ignore and move on. 

What should matter is the present not the past. Whatever is in the past just let it go and whatever come forward dont need to be afraid because you know you are strong enough to fall and still get up. For one who dont fear your departure is not worth to be in your future.

Actions speak louder than words. Words can lie but actions will not