Friends or Lovers

Can friends become lovers or lovers become friends? A question that has been asked a lot. For me is very clear between friends and lovers but for some ppl there is no friends of opposite gender. 

Friends are friends. Not everybody is suitable to be lovers together. So it is almost impossible to change from friends to lovers especially when u are friends for so long. The views between both, the ability to talk and chat easily and for everything is necessary. Imagine being in a relationship that you can't even trust your partner to be open minded to talk and communicate. How long can the relationship last?

There are a lot of ppl that I met which make me see a lot of perspectives at the same time make me see things that matter and things that don't. 

Also it is clear what are the important things in life and what is essential to find when u are in a relationship. Being together finance is really an important matter. Not just to the family and it is a responsibility for yourself. One have to know how to manage their money properly. One don't depends on the other. Money give the individual confident and provide a security and a balanced base for the relationship. 

Even if you are alone, you also need to manage your money properly. Ensure you don't overspend. In a relationship one may spend more but also needs to accommodate each other within the limit you can accept. 

If you can't manage your money properly, there is only one person to blame which is yourself because you spend beyond your means and your capability to earn more money. Being together is not pulling each other down but encourage each other, praising each other. Not criticizing each other to feel better for themselves. 

To be in a relationship, it is important to be confident of yourself and believe in your partner's judgement. Optimism is also another important point and the need to be open minded to accept having different views with your partner. Seeing and understanding from different point of view. Although one may not accept but at the least can understand and in turn accommodate each other. One does not push their belief and comments on the other. And even more does not need to advice when the other party is not asking for it. 

The only needed is to empathize and comfort. No matter lovers or friends, empathize and comfort is what is needed when someone open their heart out to you. One does not penalize or judge the other for opening their heart. Penalizing and judging will only result in the party not saying any longer.

It is really important to communicate, communicate and communicate. If your partner can't understand then explain in a another way that can. Also boundaries is important. Ensuring you do not cross your partner's boundaries and push their limit to verge of the cliff. Being honest and open with feelings and being able to be transparent to share everything is essential to build a strong connection and a sustainable relationship