Want but cant

If you care you will want to know every reason behind the answer no. If the person say can't, why can't? She also want to but why she can't? What is holding her back? What is her concern? If you know and understand, you will not push. You will heartache, you will give space, give time, give security. You will not talk about it and constantly put salt on wound. You will not use it as a weapon on her.

If she don't talk, you will be patient. You will give time, you will give security so she can feel comfortable to talk to you. You don't judge when she talk, you don't criticize, you understand and you support. I know is hard to not talk. But you will empathize. You will see beyond the surface what is hurting her, you will calm her, you will comfort her, you will listen, you will accept and support.

If you love, you will care, you will heartache, your actions will show. Your actions maybe clumsy but it will be sweet. Your care will be sincere and not an act, not a task to fulfil. Your care will come from the bottom of your heart. Your care and heartache don't have to be taught. The person can feel. Nobody is stupid. They can feel, they just give you chance, they just act stupid or act blind. 

If you love her, you will not test her limit, you will not test her boundaries. You will respect her boundaries, you will not insist she give in, you will not ask her to prove her love by bending her boundaries. You will not let her feel disappointed or upset. You will not let her feel wronged. You will love her as she love you. 

Love is simple. Pure. Not based on test, not calculative, not repayment. Love is based on security, trust and love is love without reason without weighing pros and cons or investment benefits. 

爱是两方面的

一起提起勇氣

好好呵护彼此

不让谁受委屈

自己苦也愿意

绝不让人欺负

连自己都不行

心疼宠着对方

也保护着对方