Relationship don't have right or wrong. Relationship definitely have right or wrong. Legally right or wrong, Ethically right or wrong. Verbal abuse, physical abuse what you mean don't have right or wrong? The victim 是活该被打还是活该被虐？
Cheating no right or wrong. Cheating is ethically wrong. You want to be in a relationship, u stay loyal, if u can't no matter what reason, u communicate. You communicate until the thing could be resolve and you are united with your partner once again, if end up can't unite together, simple can accept u accept and compromise that differences in belief, cannot accept u leave. There is no excuse because your partner don't see eye to eye with u so u can cheat? Ur partner stay loyal to u as well. Is not an excuse for you to stay unfaithful. Be a person and do the right thing. Your partner doesn't deserve a unfaithful companion and u don't deserve a loyal partner. Cheating is ok. Ppl make mistakes. But not saying and continue doing this mistake is the most coward way of dealing with things. U don't face your issue with your partner head on and resolve things. If you have kids, ask yourself will you want your kids to find a cheating partner like yourself? Don't give excuse and say u stay because of your kids. Sure u can don't divorce until your kids grow up, but u still have to tell your partner and discuss this plan with him/her. Kids are smart. 纸是抱不住火的. The day your kids found out you are cheating, acting to be happy family will be the day u ruin their life three views. Everything they believe in will crash in that moment of truth.
If my friend tell me he cheat, I will not hesitate to scold him/her. I will not hesitate to guide him/her to the right path. If he/she don't see eye to eye with me is fine, can leave. No matter how long friendship, if we don't have same beliefs, is ok. I treat u as a friend which is why I have to guide you correctly. My loyalty is with u which is the reason why Im telling u what u did is wrong. I will give you a chance to make it right. If you can't and refuse, we fight and quarrel no issue. If still can't resolve then is ok we don't have to be friends. 又不是缺朋友，干嘛要跟不适合的磨损自己的价值观和自内消耗? If your friend can change your 3 view even worse, what kind of person are you? So easily influenced and swayed. We all are grown up and we can think for ourselves. If you aren't my friend or someone close to me, I don't even bothered explaining to u, if I know you, I will just go up to your partner and inform him/her u cheated. Because you to me is not important. I value our relationship which is why I have to say.
Lastly being hang by your partner. If not interested say not interested, what is the meaning of hanging and neglecting him/her? This is also ethically wrong. What? Your partner deserve to be neglected by you? Relationship is a 2 way thing. If you can't be in a proper relationship, be committed, stay loyal, communicate, be responsible, then my advice is don't be in one. Everybody is mature enough to deal with their own actions and make their own decisions. If you are still considering this person or can be easily sway by another opinion, then the answer is simple, don't be in a relationship until you are sure. When u are sure, u stay committed to work things out, when it doesn't work out, then it doesn't. Move on. If you are seeing this as a test to your partner and see if he/she can stay beside you through thick and thin, don't do that. Because he/she has not experience things together with u, he/she don't have the reason to stay beside you. Both have to experience things together to know if is the right one. Also love need to be 培养. At the start no matter how much u love the other party, you still need to continue to maintain that love to build it stronger together. That is how people last forever and not testing the love to see how strong it is. What u trying to prove that love can't last? 爱是经得起考验而且是需要一起经得起. If you give up or doesn't make that effort to maintain that love then there is no one to blame but yourself.
Being wrong doesn't care what age u are in. If it is wrong we correct, we guide. When your kid is wrong, we guide them the right path. When your parents is wrong, same thing we correct and guide them. They are parents but that doesn't mean they can do the wrong thing. They learn as well. When your friend is wrong we correct and guide them. We all make decisions and be responsible for our own decisions. We all make mistakes and be responsible for them. We admit mistake, we make up to it, we move on.
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